It\u2019s quite boring. But when we first got together I watched it with you. I asked too many questions. You got annoyed. So I stopped. I felt sorry for the Klingons. I didn\u2019t like Captain Kirk. Next Generation<\/em> was a little better. Picard seemed nice. Smart. But eventually I had enough and stopped watching it with you. The early days of wanting to be together every single minute were waning. We moved from our tiny apartment to a house and I could be in another room without you. Although I did miss being on the futon with you and laying my head in your lap.<\/p>\n The day after you died our son watched Star Trek<\/em>. I thought it was odd because he never had before. The episode was about an invisible spaceship entity that wanted to die. The crew of the Enterprise had to give up trying to save it.<\/p>\n The episode was titled “The Tin Man.” Just like the Halloween costume you wore the year we all dressed up as characters from The Wizard of Oz<\/em>. Except you didn\u2019t want to wear a costume so you just wore a baseball hat that I had embroidered that said Tin Man.<\/p>\n And I wasn\u2019t sure what that meant. I had questions. But you weren\u2019t there.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n It was not the day I spilled nail polish remover down the front of my shirt. My mother called poison control. I was turning purple. She ran me under cold water. Years later my father would say the reason I am so stupid is from inhaling toxic fumes. It was not the day that my father started a fire in the fireplace. It was August. I was watching The Sound of Music<\/em> on the television but not paying attention. My mother was begging him to put it out.<\/p>\n It was the day I ate all of the marshmallows from the box of Lucky Charms. It was the day that my parents asked me to go on a walk. I thought that they were going to tell me they were having another baby. My father said he was leaving. It had nothing to do with me. I didn\u2019t cry. I kicked at rocks and watched them bounce off the dirt road into the woods. As he was pulling out of the driveway I realized he had my bike in the back of his white van. I tried to chase after him yelling, \u201cWAIT!\u201d\u00a0 He probably saw me running after him. He probably thought I was crying for him. But he didn\u2019t stop. It was the day that I ran down the driveway and didn\u2019t stop running all the way down to the water. I jumped in and I started swimming. I was wearing my clothes. Shorts and a tee shirt. The shirt was green and had a lion on it. I thought I could hear my mother yelling for me to come back but I didn\u2019t. I swam farther and farther away. I wasn\u2019t scared to swim out past the buoy. I was going to swim all the way across to Blueberry Island. But I knew I wasn\u2019t going to make it. My arms were getting tired. I was afraid of the boats coming through. I turned and swam back. But not because my mother was yelling for me. She didn\u2019t call my name. I walked up the steps to the cottage. Dripping wet through the porch, into the kitchen. My mother was sitting at the table smoking. \u201cThat was very dangerous,\u201d she said. \u201cYou\u2019re lucky you didn\u2019t drown.\u201d\u00a0 I sat down at the small kitchen table.<\/p>\n \u201cIt\u2019s going to be ok,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n \u201cHe took my fucking bike!\u201d I yelled.<\/p>\n \u201cJesus Mary and Joseph,\u201d she whispered and got up from the table. She poured me a bowl of cereal without the marshmallows and said something about having breakfast for dinner and wasn\u2019t that fun.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n I\u2019m in bed but I can\u2019t sleep. The cottage smells like wet wood and mothballs and bug spray. The bed is hard. It\u2019s hot. It\u2019s too light outside. I\u2019m staring up at the ceiling. I watch a spider wrap a blackfly in invisible thread. I hear crickets chirping. Owls hooting. Tree frogs squawking. The black and white television downstairs. Voices. Trying to whisper but yelling. Hissing.<\/p>\n I hear my father. He\u2019s back. I can\u2019t hear what he is saying. The noises outside are too loud. I hear footsteps coming up the stairs. Coming for me. My heart pounding. I shut my eyes. I make myself lie very still. I repeat over and over silently in my head. I am asleep. I am asleep. I am asleep. I am asleep.<\/p>\n I wake to the sound of the screen door slamming. Twice. The sound of my mother screaming as she runs through the woods. I hear her feet going over the ground. I hear branches breaking as she tears through the woods to the neighbors. I hear someone.<\/p>\n Running after her. More branches breaking. The sound of the leaves rustling. I hear my father yell her name. I wake to the commotion of the neighbors coming out of their cottage. I wake to nothing. The sound of crickets. The sounds of owls. I am alone. I am not scared. I do not move. I am paralyzed. I am not afraid. I see the red flashes of the ambulance. There is no siren. I am awake, staring at the knots on the pine paneling, afraid that something is going to crawl out of one and get me and wishing that something would.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n A and I were in the woods. We had just argued again about how I got engaged while we were broken up. I have no explanation when he says again, \u201cI just don\u2019t understand.\u201d I say again, \u201cI don\u2019t either.” To distract him I suggest we look for frogs in the pond. We can hear them but can\u2019t see them.<\/p>\n I have just returned from Arizona and am leaving him again for another week to go on vacation with my daughter to repair, to try to repair, my relationship with her. The child who loved me so much now has so much anger toward me because I broke off the engagement. I cannot tell her why. I can hardly tell anyone why. She thinks it\u2019s because of A. Partly that is true. I never stopped loving him. Or missing him. 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SLEEP<\/h5>\n
LA RANA<\/h5>\n